“Cristiano Ronaldo is an arrogant tosser, who rolls around like a ‘Nancy boy’ and loves himself”. “Luis Suarez is dirty, cheating, biting animal”. “Michael Clarke thinks only about Michael Clarke” (third person pun intended). “Willie Mason is just another dumb leaguie”. “Mario Balottelli is spoilt brat, who’s got more money than brain cells”.
The above statements are just some of the judgements that are passed on a few of our sporting celebrities and you’ve either had those same thoughts yourself, you might of even chimed in on a Saturday afternoon beer fueled chat at your ‘local’ or you once tuned into the many AM talk back shows and heard the presenters rant about a particular sportsman.
The celebrity is always an easy picking and always a good place to start when wanting to release our own frustrations.
But then something happens…………
We find out that the celebrity who we once labelled a “dog” or a “prima donna” donates 25% of his earnings to a children’s charity or after the match he jumped the fence to give his shirt to the quadriplegic sitting in the front row of the stands. We often hear of the huge amount of time and money they spend with the poor and disadvantaged in their local communities and when there is a crisis they are very giving of themselves and their good fortunes.
THEN MAGIC OCCURS.
All of a sudden they go from being a “grub” to a “top bloke”. From “wanker” to “legend”.
WHAT’S MY POINT?
What if “he” was all those things? The ugliness and the beauty. The giving and the tightness. The sore loser and gracious winner. The sexist and the loving father of 3 girls?
Here’s the big one: What if you were all those things too? What if you were as much arrogant as you we’re humble? Greedy as much as you we’re sharing? A wanker as much as a legend?
Don’t dismiss it just yet. Stay with me for a minute.
You might be generous with money but stingy with your hugs or time spent with your kids. You might be a genius in wealth building but a dope in relationships. Fit body but an unfit bank balance. Kind to animals, unkind to yourself. Fair in your parenting but a cheat with your taxes. A prima donna when walking down the street with your hot wife and modest about your business success. Shy in the bedroom- extravert in the board room. Leader on the sporting field but the 2IC at home (like most husbands).
There is NO trait that you don’t have within you.
You have them all- every single one of them. If you’re reading this now and running a few traits in your head and saying “NO WAY am I a …………..” and “absolutely no chance am I a ………………”- well you are.
You are a peasant and a millionaire whether you like it or not. You’re a horny prude too.
Our celebrities are just a reflection of who we are and the great thing about having them in the spot light is that we can sit back and pass our judgements on their behaviors which can enlighten us about parts of ourselves that we haven’t completely owned and appreciated.
HERE’S THE BIGGEST PROBLEM: We have been taught that certain traits are “good” and others are “bad”, and therein lies your dilemma. It’s the miss-perception that certain traits are more bad than good that brings about the anger and frustration when we perceive them in others or ourselves rather than see it for what it is……………. LOVE. It’s all love-NO exceptions.
“It is what it is”…………….. You’ve heard that right? “it” is not good or bad it just “IS”.
You label it positive or negative based on your past experiences, your family beliefs, religion, country of birth and many other factors that have led you to develop your own book of “good” and “bad”. But what if that book of yours was outdated like some of the other texts out there that also preach about good and evil?
MY RECOMMENDATION:
If a particular person is pressing your buttons, ask yourself where you possess the same trait. How does that so called negative trait have just as many positives as it does negatives. Whether it’s within you or “them”, you are benefiting from this trait just as much as you will be disadvantaged, and when you ask the right questions you will drop all labels other than love. If you were to add up all the pro’s and con’s you would end up with????…………. ZERO.
Zero equals LOVE. Love occurs at that sum of ups minus the downs.
Ronaldo and Clarkey are all those names that you call them, but so are you.
Sending you love and balance.
PS whatever you think of me………….. You are right.
